Of all the things necessary to set up this blog, the most difficult was choosing a name. I wanted it to represent in the fewest words possible the essence of who I am. Then I remembered my daughter teasing me about my facebook choice for “Religion”. I wrote WAY CATHOLIC. Thus, the name of my blog! If you surfed to this page looking for a scholarly, theological presentation, keep surfing. Here you will find musings and discussions from the point of view of an everyday Catholic. I’ve learned to embrace the tenets of our Church, based on extensive reading, Bible study, lots of prayer and God’s grace. The world says to think of yourself, your happiness, your fulfillment, to believe “It’s all about me!” How different would the world be if instead we thought about how we could make others happy and fulfilled? Sacrificed a bit of our freedom or time or money in order to benefit someone else? To believe “It’s all about Him”?!
These are some of the subjects, among many others, that will make their way to my posts. My goal is to ignite fruitful discussions, cause people to stop and really think about how each one of us can change the world, bring spouses and families and maybe even communities closer together by living lives of generosity, empathy and peace. I am a daughter, sister, wife, mother, aunt, godmother, friend and a child of God. I love my husband and kids, my family and friends, my church community (and I’m working very hard to love those who seem unloveable.)
“For if you love those who love you, what reward have you? Do not even tax collectors do the same?” Matthew 5:46
Who Am I?
My name is Becky (not Rebecca). People tend to argue with me about that (like I don’t know my own name?!) Especially officials – at school or getting my marriage license or my passport. It’s easy to determine that my birth certificate hasn’t been forged – so it is Becky. I grew up in a small town in northeastern Indiana, the first grandchild on my mom’s side of the family. Since both of my parents came from large families that lived in the area, I have TONS of relatives there. Although it was a safe, quiet place to raise a family, I really never pictured myself living there for the rest of my life. And I certainly couldn’t imagine marrying any of the boys I grew up with – there are pictures of me kissing one of them in a kiddie pool when we were three or four years old that could be used for blackmail!
Thus when the new kid hit town when I was about 16, he immediately caught my eye. One of my posts will probably address our courtship, but suffice it to say, I married my high school sweetheart. We just celebrated our 32nd wedding anniversary! Our children are grown and we are enjoying the empty nest. We have lived in Austin, TX, for 29 years, a place quite different from my midwest upbringing. It’s nothing at all how I pictured a Texas town would be, much more hilly and green, with plenty of great music and even better food! My son and his new wife live within 30 minutes of our home and my daughter is currently about 1.5 hours away, soon to be pursuing her Master’s Degree in Psychology. I can understand why some people have difficulty letting their children walk off into the world, but personally it has been such a joy and blessing watching my kids turn into responsible adults. We may not always see eye to eye, but I respect them as individuals. They are kind, thoughtful, strong, loving people; I hope I had something to do with that. But mostly I hope they continue to grow in their faith and find their way to God. A wise man once said it is our responsibility to lead our spouse and children to heaven. That is an awesome responsibility that puts our relationships into the proper perspective. What joy we will know as we live eternally with our God!
…and I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Behold, the dwelling of God is with men. He will dwell with them, and they shall be his people, and God himself will be with them; he will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning nor crying nor pain any more, for the former things have passed away.” Revelation 21:3-4